I have struggled immensely with this concept this year. In the process of eating better, furthering my education, and raising three slightly difficult children on my own, being happy and content in my situation is hard. I see family members who do not have to struggle like we do, who can provide the moon and everything in between to their children, and we are saving every penny to be able to have at least one little family trip this year. I turn down purchasing items for myself or going without to ensure my children do not.
I compare my life to others and wonder how did they get it so easy? They have found love, they don’t struggle, they have nice, clean homes and pedicures. And here I am, crashing in bed by 9:15 p.m. from sheer mental and emotional exhaustion.
However, I know in my heart of hearts that I am not to compare my life to everyone else’s highlight reel. Yes we struggle. Yes life is hard. But I am trying to make the best of it. At least I can say my kids don’t feel the struggle. They are safe from the stress and the worry.
The amount of money you have, the places you can travel, the clothes hanging in your closet, are all mere items that can be whisked away at any time. There is no contentment or security of life in those items. I am learning that my happiness is what I make of it. Being content in what life throws at me and hitting right back. I’ll be damned if this season of my life defines me, or defeats me. In an instant all those things could be gone. Some families are one job away from bankrupt. I am raising kids who value the little things and cherish the vacations because they are not every day occurrences. Trips out for dinner, movies, and shopping are all treats that we savor.
Be that person who appreciates what life is and can fully live on very little. Contentment comes from within. Happiness is within your control. Don’t compare your life to someone else’s highlight reel. May your life be better than what is on Facebook. Relish in those moments when life seems to be running smoothly and fight like hell when its not.
Be happy. Not because of your situations, but because of your spirit. Today, choose happiness. Choose love. Choose grace. And above all, choose to be grateful. You’re on this side of the dirt. That alone is reason to smile.